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- picked up new book this week; inspired by @Sahil Bloom on none other than @Tanmay Bakchod pidcast - Books/Dopamine Nation #bookAcquired collapsed:: true - “We’re all running from pain. Some of us take pills. Some of us couch surf while binge-watching Netflix. Some of us read romance novels. We’ll do almost anything to distract ourselves from ourselves. Yet all this trying to insulate ourselves from pain seems only to have made our pain worse.” - Pain #dotsconnected - The reason we’re all so miserable may be because we’re working so hard to avoid being miserable. - The paradox is that hedonism, the pursuit of pleasure for its own sake, leads to anhedonia, which is the inability to enjoy pleasure of any kind. - Abstinence is necessary to restore homeostasis, and with it our ability to get pleasure from less potent rewards, as well as see the true cause and effect between our substance use and the way we’re feeling. To put it in terms of the pleasure-pain balance, fasting from dopamine allows sufficient time for the gremlins to hop off the balance and for the balance to go back to the level position. #Fasting - Simple Pleasures collapsed:: true - Once our balance is level, we are again able to take pleasure in everyday, simple rewards. Going for a walk. Watching the sun rise. Enjoying a meal with friends. - As Dr. Tom Finucane, who studies diabetes in the setting of chronic sedentary feeding, said, “We are cacti in the rain forest.” And like cacti adapted to an arid climate, we are drowning in dopamine. - On Dopamine collapsed:: true - Dopamine may play a bigger role in the motivation to get a reward than the pleasure of the reward itself. Wanting more than liking. - This transient dopamine mini-deficit state is what motivates us to seek out our reward. Dopamine levels below baseline drive craving. Craving translates into purposeful activity to obtain the drug. - “the measure of how addicted a laboratory animal is comes down to how hard that animal is willing to work to obtain its drug—by pressing a lever, navigating a maze, climbing up - Which is to say, if we get the expected reward, we get an even bigger spike. If we don’t get the expected reward, we experience an even bigger plunge. - this is how i feel coding - There are many other modern examples of previously taboo drugs being transformed into socially acceptable commodities, often in the guise of medicines. Cigarettes became vape pens and ZYN pouches. Heroin became OxyContin. Cannabis became “medical marijuana.” No sooner have we committed to abstinence than our old drug reappears as a nicely packaged, affordable new product saying, Hey! This is okay. I’m good for you now. - 2 AM: - new book - There is only one answer: respect. - What is respect? Here is one definition: “Respect denotes the ability to see a person as [they are]; to be aware of [their] unique individuality.” These are the words of the social psychologist Erich Fromm, who moved from Germany to America to escape Nazi persecution around the same time as Adler. - “Respect means the concern that the other person should grow and unfold as [they are].” - Not trying to change or manipulate the other person who is right there in front of you. Accepting that person as they are without setting any conditions. There is no greater respect than this. Then, on being accepted by another person “as one is,” one is likely to gain a great courage. And respect may also be regarded as the starting point of encouragement. - #dotsconnected #Books / On Becoming A Person - Place value on the person “being that person” without pushing your own value system on them. And further, assist in their growth or unfolding. That is precisely what respect is. - becoming - First you have to start. Without setting any conditions whatsoever, and regardless of what the anticipated results might be, it is you who take the first step. - #Fight with brother Manish this solves it for me. i must respect manish whatsoever - If there is fear even for a short time, it is unlikely for there to be any respect. It’s only natural that the class will get out of control. You just stood by idly as it developed, and now you resort to authoritarian measures. - Without negating anything, or forcing anything, one accepts and values the person as they are. In other words, one protects, and one has concern for, another person’s dignity. Do you see where that concrete first step lies? YOUTH: No. Where? PHILOSOPHER: This is a quite logical conclusion. It lies in having concern for other people’s concerns. - It seems that you understand only half of what I have been talking about. I am not seeking one-sided respect from you. Rather, I want you to teach respect to your students. - Teach them how to build the kind of respect that is the cornerstone of all interpersonal relationships, and show them what a respect-based relationship can be. As Adler tells us, “Cowardice is contagious. And courage is contagious too.” Naturally, respect also becomes contagious. - Every person is a compiler of a story of “me,” who rewrites his or her own past as desired to prove the legitimacy of “me now.”