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icon:: 📖 purchased:: start:: Apr 16th, 2023 end:: published:: length:: author:: cover:: reading-time:: score:: - There is only one answer: Respect - There is only one answer: respect. - What is respect? Here is one definition: “Respect denotes the ability to see a person as [they are]; to be aware of [their] unique individuality.” These are the words of the social psychologist Erich Fromm, who moved from Germany to America to escape Nazi persecution around the same time as Adler. - “Respect means the concern that the other person should grow and unfold as [they are].” - Not trying to change or manipulate the other person who is right there in front of you. Accepting that person as they are without setting any conditions. There is no greater respect than this. Then, on being accepted by another person “as one is,” one is likely to gain a great courage. And respect may also be regarded as the starting point of encouragement. - #dotsconnected #Books / On Becoming A Person - Place value on the person “being that person” without pushing your own value system on them. And further, assist in their growth or unfolding. That is precisely what respect is. - becoming - First you have to start. Without setting any conditions whatsoever, and regardless of what the anticipated results might be, it is you who take the first step. - If there is fear even for a short time, it is unlikely for there to be any respect. It’s only natural that the class will get out of control. You just stood by idly as it developed, and now you resort to authoritarian measures. - Without negating anything, or forcing anything, one accepts and values the person as they are. In other words, one protects, and one has concern for, another person’s dignity. Do you see where that concrete first step lies? YOUTH: No. Where? PHILOSOPHER: This is a quite logical conclusion. It lies in having concern for other people’s concerns. - It seems that you understand only half of what I have been talking about. I am not seeking one-sided respect from you. Rather, I want you to teach respect to your students. - Teach them how to build the kind of respect that is the cornerstone of all interpersonal relationships, and show them what a respect-based relationship can be. As Adler tells us, “Cowardice is contagious. And courage is contagious too.” Naturally, respect also becomes contagious. -